Often, in conversations about midwifery, pay parity, working conditions, the level of workforce crisis the profession is working within, the goal of leaders is building resilience. It is a word that is more and more commonly bandied about, as midwives are stretched thinner and thinner in every possible work area. Whether midwives are employed, self … Continue reading On why resilience shouldn’t be an end goal for midwives: Or anyone
I'm gonna start by telling you a story. The morning sun streaked through a crack in the curtains, laying a line of bright light across the face of the person sleeping on the bed. They twitched, pulled a pillow across their face, settled back into deep, rhythmic breathing. The cat at the end of the … Continue reading On gender neutral pronouns.
Midwives are in the news again. We can't tell our stories as individuals, because we risk breaching professional boundaries and client confidentiality. Our hands are tied, from telling our stories as midwives. But. I am more than a midwife. I am a woman, and I can tell that story. One day at work, I saw … Continue reading On Breaking Points.
Today, I heard some inspirational words: Attitudes are contagious. Make yours worth catching. Do what is Right, not what is policy. Shame is too blunt an instrument ever to be used to effect any kind of change. I heard more words of pain, from caring people wrung out by a thankless task: We have lost … Continue reading On Roaring
This last couple of weeks has really challenged my plan to Rise Above. I hoped to follow this advice: Whether it comes from Lao Tzu or not, it sounds smart. But, it seems like the world is conspiring to bring me to my knees. This week was "one of those weeks". I have been sick, … Continue reading On Rising Above
*The "You" referenced in this blog, is similar to The Ubiquitous They, not talking about a particular person. The examples are all real. This is not saying that you, the reader are doing these things or saying them. Just identifying that it isn't cool to do it, even once* So, I have an assignment to … Continue reading On loving people, any way.
This Blog isn't funny. Sorry. There aren't any memes, or jokes or light hearted moments. At the beginning, it looks like falling in love. You want to be together every moment, you lose interest in your family and friends, and you just want to be with that new, fascinating, sexy person who you just met. … Continue reading On what it looks like at the beginning *TRIGGER WARNING* references abusive relationships.
Yup. That Time of the Month. Periods. Menstruation. Riding the Red Wave. Shark week. Mother Natures Gift. Pick a name, there are as many names for the bleeding week as there are for where the bleeding comes out of. Warning. This post contains intimate discussions of my menstrual cycle, and may be offensive to … Continue reading On Aunt Flo’s very expensive visits.
So, I was talking to a friend yesterday (This blog was started in April, so, not yesterday now, actually, it was bloody ages ago) about deciding "what is next" and it led to this revelation about how I know that I struggle to start things because I hold such high expectations for myself... Those expectations … Continue reading On paralysis and vulnerability
So, when I was twenty one, I was in the middle of a separation that would end in divorce, in the middle of a custody battle, in the middle of not knowing anything about myself, really. I knew what I believed: I believed I knew what love was, I was agnostic and regularly attended church; … Continue reading On growth